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So much of our life is lived on the ground looking at the nitty gritty. 
What if we were to change our perspective and see the world "from a distance" ? 
What possibilities would we see?

A Star Lite poem I wrote when I was having one of those possibility perspective moments:

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To Catch a Cloud
 
Up on the top of my castle
I can see a whole landscape,
the farms, the field, the people,
      the weather.
 
I see the clouds come and go.
I see the children born and grow.
I see the lives lived in rhythm with
      the seasons.
 
The colors change.
The snow it blows.
The clothing the children wear
      matches.
 
And I, up in my castle, see
   the whole of life
            laid out for me.
Come and go.
Come and go.
Come and go, like the clouds.
 
I do not run or chase the clouds.
I let them be, billow, grow, fly away,
I put on a fire when the wind blows.
I sit in the sun when they allow.
 
For no matter how tall my castle
    may make me,
no matter how high I may see,
I am still not tall enough,
   strong enough,
   mighty enough,
            to catch a cloud.
 
- JP
 © Jeannine Proulx, 2019
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Did you ever learn how to ride a bike? How did you do it?

Did you get on the bike and immediately master the balance of your weight on a moving vehicle with two wheels and handlebars angled in such a way you are actually leaning forward as you move?
Probably not.
 
You got on, a little scared, a little nervous.
Maybe you had training wheels that balanced for you until your body could adjust.
Maybe you had a parent or adult holding onto the bike as you took your first pedal into the land of biking. You may have fallen down a time or two.

There may have been siblings or other kids cheering you on riding their bikes past you. There may have also been kids jeering or teasing you, telling you that you couldn’t do it.

Yet, you did. You learned how to ride a bike. How?

You tired tried and tried again.

You tried again until you mastered the art of balancing, of pedaling, of steering, and all the things it takes to ride a bike successfully. You did it! And if you got on a bike today, chances are your muscle memory mind would remember all that hard work and you would balance again without effort.

That which we learn, we retain. As a master you now ride through life!
 
As we grow up and reach adulthood, we can forget that mastering is something takes practice, that learning takes time, and that failing is a part of the process. We expect that we are just supposed to know it all because we have learned so much in our lives. Children look to us as if we know it all. Peers look to us as if we should know it all. Our lives are based on being skilled masters of knowing it all.

But the more you know, the more you realize there is to know.
 
This world is full of amazing, insanely awesome things to learn!

Learning is life.

To learn means we are growing, we are opening up to new wonders in our lives. To stop learning means we stop opening up to new possibilities and we begin to cling to familiar *Tiny Town. In doing so, we close the doors on the opportunities that could be there for our lives.

It is what many call growing old, getting stale, or stuck in our ways.
 
We stay in limitation because we have mastered all the information coming at us and that makes us feel good. We feel good when we are the smart ones who have all the answers.

We feel good when we are the ones leading the pack in the bicycle parade.
To be a beginner is scary.

We don’t feel confident or secure when we are learning new things. *The Four Steps of Allowing come into play and our bodies scream at us that the new thing we are attempting is not safe! We have to use energy, time, and focus to face those *Caution Walls and bust through to mastery. How do we do this?
 
We try, try, and try again.
 
Just like learning how to ride that bike, we put one foot on the pedal and try again. We fall down. We get back up. We try again. Some people taunt and tease us for trying or wobbling as we go down our path. We keep pedaling. We keep trying. Some people cheer us on.

We breathe in their support and keep going. We try again.
 
And every day we get stronger. And every day we learn more. And every day we become more and more the master and less the beginner.
 
If we can use the tool of a *Perseverance Personality, we can learn all sorts of things! We can get that new job. We can find love. We can start that new career and provide for our families. We can move into a new phase of life with a new outlook on life.

We can overcome anything. We just have to try, try, and try again. 
 
The reward? The reward is the motivation. Riding a bike as a kid the reward was the feeling of the wind in our hair, the ability to go where we wanted faster than ever, and being able to hang with our friends who could ride their bikes too. Our parents were proud of us. We were free to be out in the world, able to go fast and master anything! And we had so much fun doing it!
 
If we can find the reward for whatever it is we are trying we can focus through the growing pains and into the new and greater possibilities. We can move through the falling down times and find the solutions as we go.

We can keep trying until we succeed.
 
No matter what it is you want in life, the dream that is deep in your heart, if you keep trying you will learn not only how to do it, but more about yourself along the journey than you ever thought possible. It all begins with one step, one motion to try.

And then? Then try, try, try again.
 

-Jeannine Proulx



Your Optional Short Cut:
Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and tune into your heart space, and ask yourself:
 
“What new thing are you scared to try today? How would it feel if you had mastered it?”
Focus on the feeling of being free and try again! What steps do you need to take?
 
 
What ideas come to you? 


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Thanks for taking a moment to hit pause and open up to Possibility!
Here’s to the possibilities to come!

© Jeannine Proulx, A Possibility Pause
First Written October 28, 2018
for - The Star Shine Club
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As we travel through our lives attempting to dream, do, live, and be our best selves, oftentimes we live so much in the future we forget the past. We have goals, dreams, and things that we are looking forward to in a New Year as the small victories of the year behind get left in the dust. Life moves so fast we can get caught up in the going and forget how far we have come.
 
“Today we are living yesterday’s dreams.”
 
Right now, right here, you are living the life you imagined as a younger you.

You are doing activities you had only dreamt of years ago. You are in a place, with people, experiencing moments that you had longed for all those years ago. Today is the success story! Your life, here today, is the dream lived out in the physical world. Soak that in for a moment.
 
Today is the dream.
 
Our human need to make tomorrow Better than today can delude us in thinking that we are never enough. We must always strive, be, do, and look towards that tomorrow.

​The Billion Dollar Question gets answered and we must strive for it, take those steps, bust those blocks! We must move forward, always! And we do. Each and every day we move forward. But there comes a time in life when we stop moving forward. We age. We reach that limit of what our physical human bodies can take on this earth and we begin to decline. We stop moving forward. We stop being able to go, go, go. This inevitable stage of life we fondly refer to as “old age.”
 
Often times in this age we get more content, wise, and happier with life. Why?

Because we begin to look back.

We begin to look back and see all that we have done in our lives. We begin to look back and see the friendships woven through our existence of time. We begin to feel grateful for the opportunities we did have and the life we did live.
 
At this stage of life we cannot go back and do it all over again. We cannot achieve more or start over. Acceptance is the only way into present moment happiness. And with that acceptance comes celebration. There is a reason they call it a “Celebration of Life.”

A life well lived is just a life. We all have a life, right here, right now. We are all living that life. We are all carving out those moments in time that one day we will look back on and appreciate, tell our children and our great-grandchildren about the time when….
 
When what? When we were living our lives today.
 
We don’t have to be at our end of life stage of possibilities to use this amazing tool that life gives us. We can use it today! Each and every year that goes by we are making memories.

We are touching hearts and changing lives. We are living the life we dreamt up yesterday, which tomorrow will be our good ol’ days. By celebrating each step along the way, we can add the richness of life today by appreciating where we have been and celebrating where we are today.
 
Each and every day we are creating the stories of our lives. Some might fly by so fast we can barely remember them. Some will go down in family lore as “The day when..” 

We choose. We choose what times to celebrate, what days to remember, and how to remember them. We choose how to look at our lives as not enough or so full we can barely handle the richness. We choose.
 
We tell the Story of our Lives.
And we get to choose whether to Celebrate the Good Times, or complain about the struggles.

We choose. Today we get to decide what it is we would like our dream of yesterday to be.
And as we pass those stories down to the generations who will come after us, they will remember us by the stories we tell.
 
Today you are living yesterday’s dream. What life will you be living tomorrow?
 
January 6, 2019
© copyright, Jeannine Proulx

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Your Optional Short Cut:
Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and tune into your heart space, and ask yourself:
 
- What amazing accomplishment did you make last year?
- Did you celebrate it?
- If you could look back on your life and tell a story about it. What story would you tell?
 
What ideas come to you?
 
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www.thepossibilitypath.com
 

​In the early stages of life every stage is a miracle to be celebrated. We open our eyes for the first time and people “ohh” in amazement. We hold up our heads. We smile for the fist time. We roll over. We scoot. We crawl. We take our first steps. We say our first words. Every moment, every day there is a new-ness to the milestones that we as human beings achieve.
 
As we grow up, those milestones go from days to years. We move from one grade to another. We grow an inch or three. We play sports or do other things We get a good grade. We graduate. We move on into adulthood having achieved all those milestones that get so celebrated by the people around us.

We move up and onward into creating a life of our own as we move beyond the Tiny Town celebrations of daily achievements into even bigger ones.
 
As we grow up we can forget that these big achievements don’t happen in a day. The secret truth people don’t like talking about is these small steps that equal big goals are full of things we don’t like to do! And if we don’t like to do them, then it must not be a milestone achievement.

If we want a driveway clear from snow, we have to get all bundled up, get the shovel, go out and scoop by scoop ladle the snow away from the driveway with the bare muscle of our own two arms and one back.

If we want to get a new job we must research, get resume together (facing our greatest challenges of listing every big accomplishment we may have done in our lives) and go into challenging interviews, and then start all over at learning a new job with new people and new hurdles to overcome.

If we want to move to a new place, we must pack up, deal with bills, moving trucks, and getting settled again in a new place. It is all a process. Every single large thing we attempt to do as adults takes a large amount of time and many steps. The greater the goal, the more steps we must take.
 
So, how do we know when we have arrived?
 
One of the greatest sales pitches used in advertising and movies is the feeling of “Arrived.” The couple falls in love and arrives at their final wedding day moment. The mom leaves her worries behind and arrives at her vacation destination with friends where she is happy. The family makes dinner from food delivered in a box and arrives happily eating it together. The car arrives cruising down the freeway wide open skies all around it.

We watch these and feel that “Ah…” feeling of accomplishment, all is right with the world, it is all good now, moments.
 
The idea of Arrive is more than just a moment in time in these ads and movies it is forever! Happily Ever After come to life. After the couple makes their delicious dinner they don’t show the argument over who has to clean it up and how much it costs and whether they should be spending money on food because he just lost hours at his job. Nope. They stop right there: at the moment of Arrive. They stop at the moment where all things are right and good and happy.

These sales commercial Hollywood happy endings we love so much hold us in the forever feeling of arrive.
 
There is nothing left to do after you Arrive. There are no dishes to clean. There is no traffic. There is no argument or first fight. You are simply in that state of bliss forever.
 
In the Possibility Path with The New Now we are reminded that this moment of bliss of a forever now feeling of Arrive is temporary.

As human beings we don’t just Arrive and be done with it. Nope! Forever is just a feeling some advertisement company is trying to sell you or some feel good movie wants to show you.

In reality, in human existence, in this life, we don’t arrive once and be done with it? No.
We Arrive a million times a day.
 
We Arrive when we wake up and we are still here, breathing. That is an accomplishment!

We Arrive when we take on each new challenge in our lives, be it learning something new or just surviving the day. We Arrive when we walk, when we smile, when we love, when we move past fear and into peace. We Arrive when we see our kids reaching their milestones and facing new challenges. We Arrive when we look at our parents and see them turning into children again and we face the newness of age.

We arrive with every new breath we take.
 
We never fully Arrive and be done with it in this human life. There is no place of forever now.

Each moment, each day, each breath we take is new. We are just like that toddler taking a first step every day. As the pendulum swings and we reach the middle where our bodies continue to look vaguely the same every day we can forget that we are still each day, every day, new. Every day is a challenge. Every day is an adventure of learning and growing and becoming and letting go and loving and living and being in new.
 
We Arrive with every step we take.

There is no done and finished forever. That is just a feeling as fleeting as the 30 second ads that tell us so. But knowing that we are arriving each second? That can be just as exciting as seeing that baby smile for the first time. We just forget to celebrate those moments of Arrive like we do with the children.
 
You, as a grown human, are still as miraculous as that infant. Every day!

You are still as miraculous as that infant. Your body, your brain, your movement through the world arriving in each moment is still something to be treasured and cherished and honored as you walk the Path to Possibility into each and every New Now that greats you!
 
If we can celebrate our daily milestones the same way we do the little children, we can find that celebration feeling times ten in every moment of the day. And if not the feeling of celebration?

​Then maybe just the feeling of knowing that we are doing okay as we Arrive at this next moment, in this now, here, today. That can be enough. Open up to the possibility that we indeed have arrived.  
 
 - JP
 
 
Your Optional Short Cut:
Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and tune into your heart space, and ask yourself:
 
- What needs to be celebrated in your life as an accomplishment today?
- Where have you Arrived?
 
 
What ideas come to you?
 
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***** YOU ARE A SHINING STAR! *****
 
 
* These Possibility Pauses are for you to hit the pause button in your life for just a moment to get answers, ideas, solutions, and hope that you might not otherwise get moving through life on auto-pilot.
 
Thanks for taking a moment to hit pause and open up to Possibility!
 
© Jeannine Proulx, A Possibility Pause
First written: January 19, 2020 
www.thepossibilitypath.com
 
 
Appreciate you, all you are, and all you do to bring life and possibility to the world, starting with your inner world!
 
Here’s to the possibilities to come!
 

They say ART
is born
from
                                chaos.
I say ART
is born
from
         LIFE
 
Art is born from sunsets
   and the smell of
a baby’s head.
The sweet scent
   of pumpkin pie
on the counter,
   cooling.
Warm nights and  
               cool days.
Leaves blowing
           in the wind.
The wrinkles of
    an elder’s hand,
holding mine.
 
Last breaths
   and first cries.
Oceans and whales
         and volcanos,
oh my!
Everywhere I look,
I see, I feel,
I am
      inspired
to create, to capture,
   to mimic, to honor
LIFE.
 
Art is not born
            from the chaos of,
but the beauty within
   what appears to be
chaos.
 
For life is the utmost
   perfectly perfect example
of how incredible
   this existence
                     truly is.
 
Art is simply a way
    to make sense of
what we can never
    understand
and to maybe
   participate a bit
in the dancing swirls of
               this universe
we exist within.
 
Perhaps it is not chaos
   they speak of
that inspires
                 ART.
 
Perhaps it is the
              mystery.

• JP

 
© 2023, Jeannine Proulx
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www.thepossibilitypath.com

 

One of the most abusive traits that is the common denominator among Lions in our lives is the crossing of boundaries.

We are living our lives. We have done our work. We created this lovely garden of our ours. We are walking our Possibility Path. We are co-existing in the world.

And then one day a Lion Attacks.
 
It might someone tail gating you on the road aggressively or honking their horn. It may be a neighbor cutting down a tree on your property. It might be a family member coming to visit when you said it wasn’t a good time or a friend sharing a secret that you didn’t want anyone to know.

It might be an accident or a tragedy that triggers fear or anxiety. It could even be unwanted sexual advances, physical attacks, anger thrown at you in ways you could not imagine over something as simple as a game of who won checkers.

The attacks are wide and varied but they all do one thing: they make us feel unsafe.
 
Our personal boundaries are the walls of our garden.
We all have those boundaries. We have our own personal space. We have our own way of looking at life. As individual human beings with each person having their own I the Observer, we all naturally have our own inner and outdoor gardens.
 
As we grow up and change we naturally create new gardens in our lives. We form our own families, we create new belief systems, and we live our own lives.

Some people cannot handle these changes. Some people want you to be just like them or do just what they want you to do. They cannot understand how anyone could have a garden that does not look just like theirs. They cannot understand why you don’t do what they want you to do, when they want you to do it! They get angry. They get mean. They throw guilt, shame, physical attacks, and every trick in the book your way to get you to do and be who they want you to do and be.
 
They could be your grandparents who tell you how horrible you are for living your life the way you do or just that you need to cut your hair. They are your parents who play victim or aggressor to try to get you to do what they want you to do or be who they want you to be. They are your siblings who mock you and taunt you and tease you to bullying depths of despair. They are your childhood friends, neighbors, or church communities who have you believe that you are not good enough just being who you are and you should be in their garden only, and never your own.
 
Some call these people narcissistic. Others are diagnosed with personality inabilities. Some are just labeled judgmental, mean, or bullies. Some are just brain washed antelopes who believe everyone must be in their tribe to survive. Antelopes spend their time herding others constantly to be like the tribe.

Others are just tired, hurt, or angry with life. Most of them are not bad people. They are just Lions. They destroy for many various reasons, some of which we may never know. Most of it is about control.
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On The Possibility Path we call the people who do not respect our boundaries Lions.

And when Lions attack, it can destroy everyone’s gardens around them.
 
You can be walking down your lovely garden path on a sunny beautiful day in this amazing world you have built for yourself and out of the blue, you see a Lion.

Immediately your blood pressure goes up. You stop dead in your tracks. If you move, the Lion will see you. You try not to breathe. You try not to move. You look for escape routes. Your mind races with thoughts of how to keep your garden safe from the destruction. You go through each scenario: If I do this, then… or this, then…  Over and over you look for the solutions. You cannot find them. You start to sink into despair. The Lion sees you. It is hunting and you are the prey.

If I had only done this, or never gone out into the garden. Your mind tries to control the situation.
There is no control. The Lion is ready to pounce. The walls wide open he sees a crack and he attacks.
 
We have all been there- frozen with the deer in the headlights look in our eyes.
What do we do? What do we do? 

We must then and there become a Safari Survivor.

We must find a possibility that brings us back our garden beauty and allows us to roam free in our Garden of Life.
 
Our possibility may be no longer communicating with the Lion who cannot respect us. We may have to grieve the loss of that relationship and face that loss.

Our possibility may be standing our ground and facing the Lion, being brutally honest to get our feelings out in public.

Our possibility may be going to talk to a professional who can help us set our own boundaries and heal the wounds that are inside of us from the trauma we endured before.

Our possibility may be that we simply walk right by the Lion and keep on living our life, no longer in fight or flee.

Our possibilities are our own. We get to create them. We get to choose what attitude, what Story, what feelings, thoughts, and how this Lion affects our inner world. They may have hurt us in the past or gotten us to acquiesce before, but  we are now Possibility People and we get to choose. 
 
No Lion, Antelope, tribe, group, or person gets to choose how we see this world and how we live in it. We get to choose. We get to put the Story on our lives that we wish.
 
We may commiserate with others. We may talk or hash it out to brain storm ideas or go to a support group to learn new psychological tools. But we must always remember that our most important Garden of Life is ours, within our own minds and our own hearts.

We get to choose how we see people, how we see the world, and how we react to the Lions in our lives.
 
Lions will attack. That is what they do. They are carnivores who must kill for food. We do not need to be their prey. We can walk away.

We can find our Zen.

We can create an internal garden that is not destroyed by every word they speak or possible action they take.

​To do this, we must be strong enough to look at our reactions to the Lions honestly.
- Why do we react the way we do?
- Where is the hurt?
- Where can we heal?

Once you have seen the Lion for who they are, you must then look at yourself. If you are solid in who you are, the Lion will back down. You will be able to stand on your own, a true survivor.

This takes the brutal ability to be a Safari Survivor. You must be willing and able to choose your own path. If you cannot do that, you will never be free of the Lions in life. For there are many and they roam among us.
 
We cannot control Lions. They are meant to be wild. But how we choose to live with them is up to us. We get to choose our own possibilities. We get to create our own gardens and live our own lives! We get to choose!
 
We get to choose possibility. What possibility are you choosing today?

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Your Optional Short Cut:
Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and tune into your heart space, and ask yourself:
 
- What Lion are you facing today? It is a belief system, a person, an old wound, or a new fear?
- What possibility can help you find your freedom and be a Safari Survivor?
 
What ideas come to you?
 
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***** YOU ARE A SHINING STAR! *****
 

* These Possibility Pauses are for you to hit the pause button in your life for just a moment to get answers, ideas, solutions, and hope that you might not otherwise get moving through life on auto-pilot.
 
Feel free to share your insights and the feelings you get from these Pauses with those in your life. I
f they wish to join The Star Shine Club, they too can get the new Possibility Pause emails each week and discounts on The Possibility Path programs!
We’d love to have them.
 
Thanks for taking a moment to hit pause and open up to Possibility!

 August 25, 2019 - Possibility Pause 
© JP,  Jeannine Proulx, A Possibility Pause
The Star Shine Club
www.thepossibilitypath.com
 
 
Appreciate you, all you are, and all you do to bring life and possibility to the world, starting with your inner world!
 
Here’s to the possibilities to come!
 

#39- The Life of a Lighthouse Keeper
 
PART II
 
Being a caretaker is easy. We know how to be caretakers. If you caretake for a child, you feed, clothe, soothe, provide, and make sure that child’s needs are taken care of. If you care take for a car, you fill it with gas, you clean it up, and you get it checked out. You take care of it when it needs fixing.

But to be a Lighthouse Keeper is something totally different.
 
To be a Lighthouse Keeper is a new way of living and a new way of looking at caretaking. Notice it is not called Lighthouse Caretakers. They are called Keepers. All you must do is keep the light shining. Your job is not to fix, change, or make it different or better.

Your job is to keep that light shining bright so those ships lost and looking to find their way will have a light to follow into port, safe on shore.
 
But to keep the light shining is a full time job! You must say “No” a lot. You are not to leave your lighthouse. You are not to go row out into the ocean or lake and seek or search for those who are lost if they cry for help. If you do this, the light in the lighthouse will go out, for there will be no one there to keep it lit. There are other people who swim out to rescue.

That is not your job. Your job is to stay still and shine your light.
 
You do not need to change this lighthouse. It is the color it is to make it be seen by others out there in the foggy days and cloudy nights. There is nothing to fix or change.  The lighthouse is there by design to be who it is, in the place and manner it was created.

There is nothing wrong with a lighthouse. It just needs a lot of maintenance, time, and care to keep it looking new, and well, keep it shining bright.
 
To be a lighthouse and a lighthouse keeper is not easy. You do not get vacations. You do not get time off. You do not get a chance to go see other shores, to go find others places to be or do or rescue like a life guard would. You do not get to jump into the storm, but you also do not get to run away from them either.

Your job is to stand still, be the strength in the fury of the wind, and keep that light shining.
 
This job is not for the faint of heart. It is a lot of work to keep that light shining. There are many storms, and even sunlight that will beat on the lighthouse and wear it down. There are waves and wind and birds and weather that will eat away at the paint and chip the windows. There is solitude and often lonely times. There is much to learn and you must become adapt at being a mechanic, a housekeeper, a painter, a landscaper, and most importantly, an expert in keeping that light lit.
 
It takes a lot of work, perseverance, and an ability to forge ahead during times when others would stop and quit. There is very little applause or praise for doing your job. People do not stop and cheer when the lighthouse is lit up bright, but they do complain when it goes out.

But there are good things too about being a Lighthouse Keeper too.
 
There are those moments when a ship comes into the channel and blows its horn in appreciation for finding its way all because it could see your light and says “I could not have done it without you!” There are days when the sun is shining and the paint is new and the waves are calm and the fishermen stop to give you their latest catch and have dinner near the fire.

There are times at night when the stars are so bright you can feel as if you can touch them, and you feel immense gratitude you have chosen to be out here on the edge of it all instead of in town where the loud noisy lights block the sky.
 
A Lighthouse Keeper can feel as though they are very far away sometimes, but at the same time you are closer to the connection of it all, the space of life that is the between zone of beach, earth, sky, and water. You are the one holding the space on the shore to help those find their way. You are the one providing that safe harbor! You are the one whose work means the most of all. Without you, there would be no light to help those find their way. Without you, there would be no direction, no guidance, no place for others to look to when they are lost.

Without you there would be no way to find home.
 
Your Lighthouse is you. Your body, your spirit, your psychological health, emotional well being, and I the Observer all rolled into one. You are a Lighthouse. Not everyone is. Most cannot handle this job. They are content running around chasing the children, trying to keep them clean, and polishing their cars so everyone will see how good they look. Their worth comes from what is seen outside of themselves.
 
To be Lighthouse means your contribution to the world comes from inside.

It is the work you do inside the structure that is you that helps shine your light. It is you that is the light and your inner work is the work that keeps that light bright. Without it you are nothing more than a building on a beach.
 
Not everyone can be a Lighthouse Keeper.

It takes a very unique person to be able to handle the job. It takes a very unique person to be able to stand tall and strong and face the storms when they come, keeping that light lit in the darkness when everyone else runs and hides. It is not a job for the faint of heart. But it is a magnificent job.
 
It is a job full of adventure and possibility, for every day is a different day! You never know who is going to come in off those waves into harbor. You never know what weather will bring. You get to wear so many different hats. Each day is a day to stretch your learning muscles and face a new adventure.

It is never boring, never dull, and never a time when there is not something new to learn. It is the adventure of a lifetime.
 
And if you do your job as a Lighthouse Keeper well, when you need that energy, when you need that strength, when you need that light, it will shine so bright the whole world will see you shine.
 
You are an incredible being, a glorious light! You are a rare and much needed person in this planet, in this world, in this human society today. Do not let anyone tell you otherwise, or take away the possibilities that await you as the Lighthouse you are meant to be.

Shining your light is not an easy job, but it is so needed and so worth it!
 
Being a Lighthouse Keeper is the secret to having wonderful relationships full of respect, honor, integrity, peace, love, and joy in the unique people that inhabit our world with us.

Feel into the joy that being you brings in this world, and let it shine and Open Up to the Possibility that you might just love the job of a Lighthouse Keeper.
 
 
Your Optional Short Cut:
Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and tune into your heart space, and ask yourself:
 
- How does it feel thinking of yourself as a Lighthouse?
- What priorities in your life would you have to change to be a Lighthouse Keeper?
 
 
What ideas come to you?
 
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***** YOU ARE A SHINING STAR! *****
 
* These Possibility Pauses are for you to hit the pause button in your life for just a moment to get answers, ideas, solutions, and hope that you might not otherwise get moving through life on auto-pilot.
 

Thanks for taking a moment to hit pause and open up to Possibility!
Appreciate you, all you are, and all you do to bring life and possibility to the world, starting with your inner world! Here’s to the possibilities to come!
 
 
© JP, Jeannine Proulx, A Possibility Pause
The Star Shine Club
www.thepossibilitypath.com

 
***If you know of someone else who is interested in becoming a Star Shine Club Member and get personal insight and weekly NEW content,  go to the Star Shine Club page or Patreon.com/thepossibiltypath
 
 

38- From Caretaker to Lighthouse Keeper: People are not cars.
 
A Caretaker job description is to take care of people, places, and things. In today’s world we see that as an outward expression of how much love those people, places, and things.

We pay attention to them. We do for them. We give to them. We cook for them. We feed them. We clean them. We clothe them. We heal them. These are the words that have been mirrored to us in the well engrained texts of our lives. We must do for others to show them that we care.

If we love someone we must do for them.
 
If we are empathic people who are visionaries and can see all possibilities, we can take this a step further. We can feel what other people want us to give to them. We see that when we do what other people want us to do, it makes them happy. We want those we love to be happy, so we keep doing for them. We keep doing and doing and doing for them.

This we see as a sign of our love and an example of being a good daughter or son, a good spouse, a good parent, a good friend.
 
But what happens when what someone wants us to do for them is not good for us?
 
As we move along our own Possibility Path, growing and getting to know ourselves better, we learn what we need to be happy, healthy, and shining in this world. We learn what makes us mean and angry and what makes us loving and kind toward others. We learn that by taking care of ourselves, we become better people, shiny Lighthouses to show people the way to shore.

We learn that when our light dims, so too does our capacity to care for people. We realize that we can get angry and resentful towards the people we are “caretaking” for and those relationships can fracture or even get broken because of it. We love our connection to others and want peace in our relationships. This can leave us at a crossroads with the traditional idea of caretaking.
 
This moment when what others need or want for us to do for them conflicts with what we need to do to keep ourselves well, is a huge opportunity to completely change our definition of caretaking. It is time to become a Lighthouse Keeper.
 
To be a Lighthouse to the World is the perfect example of The Possibility Path motto:
“When you are in a better space, the world is a better place.”
 
We are often taught caretaking is the exact opposite: if the world and those we love are in a better space, then we can be in a better place. If others are happy, we feel satisfied and feel that we did a good job of caretaking.
 
Our whole definition for how good we are in the world is then based on how well others are. That means those we love must always be happy and well for us to be happy. We are completely dependent on others living life as we define happy and well to then make us look, feel, or be shown as a good Caretaker.
 
If we are the Caretaker for a car, for example, and this car is broken down, makes lots of noise, hasn’t been washed in ages, and putts down the road with its exhaust blowing black smoke, what does that say about you?

Are you proud of yourself and the job you are doing? How do people react to this machine you are supposed to be taking care of?
 
In being a Caretaker of others we treat them as if they are a car. If they are shiny, look pretty, and perform well in the world, then we feel pride. We have done our jobs well. We are good workers! We have done well. We (and the world outside) defines us as good friends, good parents, good sons and daughters, good people, and good caretakers.
 
But people are not cars.
 
People are people. They each have their own individual paths to walk. They each have their own point of view. They each have their own journey. They each have their own lives to live. Even the smallest of children has their own I the Observer that sees the world in a completely different way than we do. People have their own internal lives, their own voices, their own paths.

Not only are we all different and have these amazing internal lives we are living, we are in vehicles that constantly break down and are designed to age, wear out, and die.
 
If we are caretaking for others the way we care take for a car, we are missing out on the complexity of what it means to be a human being and have human connection and relationships with others. People are not cars.
 
But, there is a way that moves us into an open, loving, authentic, and honest way of living that respects people for all their inner workings and their own path. It is the Life of a Lighthouse Keeper and it is one that is not for the faint of heart.

​For to be a Lighthouse Keeper means we need to turn our eyes away from thinking others must be shiny and clean for us to be seen as good caretakers, and instead pay attention to our own inner lives, our own perceptions, our own gardens, our own path, and care take for ourselves in a way that has often been labeled selfish up until now.
 
For being a Lighthouse Keeper is the secret to having wonderful relationships full of respect, honor, integrity, peace, love, and joy in the unique people that inhabit our world with us.
 
How to do that? We will continue that in Part II. For now, know that there is a way to sit and be in a better space without the world being a “better” place at all!

It all starts with the simple change from Caretaker to Lighthouse Keeper. It ends with Opening up to Possibility on a scale that can take that broken down car and see it as an antique jalopy full of joy. One simple Possibility Perspective change changes everything, and with it can change the world.
 
 
To be continued… part II next!
 
© JP, Jeannine Proulx, A Possibility Pause
The Star Shine Club
www.thepossibilitypath.com

 
Your Optional Short Cut:
Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and tune into your heart space, and ask yourself:
 
- When the idea of caretaking was mentioned, who came to mind in your life immediately?
- What do you do to care take for this person?
- If they are not shiny, happy, or well, how does it make you feel? Why?
 
 
What ideas come to you?
 
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***** YOU ARE A SHINING STAR! *****
 
These Possibility Pauses are for you to hit the pause button in your life for just a moment to get answers, ideas, solutions, and hope that you might not otherwise get moving through life on auto-pilot.
Thanks for taking a moment to hit pause and open up to Possibility!

Appreciate you, all you are, and all you do to bring life and possibility to the world, starting with your inner world! Here’s to the possibilities to come!
 
 
© JP, Jeannine Proulx, A Possibility Pause
The Star Shine Club
www.thepossibilitypath.com

 
***If you know of someone else who is interested in becoming a Star Shine Club Member and get personal insight and weekly NEW content,  go to the Star Shine Club page or Patreon.com/thepossibiltypath